Once you’ve thought about what matters most to you, the next step is putting your wishes into writing. This helps ensure your care reflects your values — and gives your loved ones clear guidance when they need it most.
You don’t have to get everything perfect. This is about creating a plan that feels right for you.
Why creating a plan matters
Putting your wishes in writing helps:
- Make sure your care team understands your preferences
- Reduce stress and uncertainty for your loved ones
- Give you confidence that your voice will be heard
- Avoid confusion or difficult decisions during emergencies
Even a simple plan can make a meaningful difference.
How to create your plan
You can take this one step at a time. Here’s how to get started:
1. Reflect on what matters most
Think about your values, beliefs, and what quality of life means to you.
You might consider:
- What makes life meaningful for you
- What types of care you would or wouldn’t want
- How you feel about life-sustaining treatments
2. Choose your healthcare representative
Select someone you trust to make decisions for you if you’re unable to.
This person should:
- Understand your wishes and values
- Be comfortable speaking on your behalf
- Be willing to take on this responsibility
It’s important to have an open conversation with them so they feel prepared.
3. Complete your advance directive
Your advance directive includes:
- Living will: Documents your care preferences
- Healthcare representative form: Names the person who can make decisions for you
You can use Connecticut-specific forms, and you don’t need a lawyer to complete them.
4. Sign your documents
To make your documents valid:
- Sign them in front of two witnesses
- Make sure your healthcare representative is not one of the witnesses
5. Share your plan
A plan only works if the right people know about it.
Be sure to share copies with:
- Your healthcare representative
- Your primary care provider
- Specialists involved in your care
- Trusted family members or loved ones
You may also want to keep a copy in an easily accessible place.
Keep your plan up to date
Your wishes may change over time, and that’s okay.
Review your plan:
- After major life changes
- If your health changes
- Every few years, just to make sure it still reflects your preferences
You can update or revoke your advance directive at any time.